*BLOG POST – REFLECTIONS*
Reflections in the mirror may be distorted by socially constructed ideas of beauty…….
What exactly do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you choose to see your beautiful body for what it is? The remarkable vessel it is for holding that beautiful soul of yours? Do you see it for everything it does for you every single day? Do you thank it for allowing you to do all the wonderful things it does for you every single day? Do you respect it and admire it in all it’s beauty?
Or do you hate on it? Do you tell it that it’s ugly? Do you tell it’s too fat? Too tall? Too lumpy? Too white? Too black? Too skinny?
Society puts so many expectations of perfection on us all. Unrealistic expectations. It took me years to be able to look at myself in the mirror naked and accept AND love who I am. I used to only have a half mirror and NO WAY would I be able to see my legs in all their glory. Far too unshapely, too bumpy, too lumpy, too frumpy, ugly…The list went on. I hated my body. It let me down. It wasn’t perfect and no matter how much I starved myself and saw my ribs sticking out, I still thought it was too fat. I didn’t have any gratitude for it. I didn’t appreciate all my body did for me. Looking back, I feel so bad how dreadfully I treated myself? Why? Because I thought I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t look like those girls in the magazines. I wasn’t perfect.
It wasn’t until recently that I have been able to see myself really naked in the mirror and love what I see. To be grateful for what I have.
Would you speak to your best friend as you do to yourself? Would your best friend speak to you like that? No? Then stop. You are the only person you are guaranteed to be with for the rest of your life. Imagine if you actually used kind words? You are beautiful exactly as you are. Try seeing yourself through the eyes of your best friend.
*Exert from The “Hoo Hoops” Calender – A movement to help raise awareness and help shift mental health problems throughout New Zealand*
The Hoo Hoos are a group of very brave ladies who have come together to create some very powerful pictures and messages for a charity calendar, to bring hope and inspiration to women and help raise self-esteem, improve self-love and acceptance.
Photograph by www.SueUdenPhotography.co.nz